Faith isn't about pushing through rather than slowing down and letting God lead. This truth took years to learn. But before that I had to find out just how intentionally God created me. 

 

People would say  “You are so strong, you are doing great” I was actually drowning. When I did open up and talk, people would say, “Go pray about it”, or there was an awkward silence. They couldn't relate.  I often prayed, “God lead me. How do I get to where you want me to be? Because its not in this emotional and physical mess.” This wrestling happened with every transition. I was certain I had this one life to live and I wanted Gods best. This anxiety, and at times hopelessness.. popped up through unstable times of divorce, grief over a future I had imagined, job insecurity, the complexity of dating again then blending my family, and eventually the quiet ache of an empty nest.

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I loved God—but I was living exhausted. Deep inside I could hear a still small voice. “There is more to this life, press in” But how do I get there? What if I miss it? Walk right pass a new job, moving, or a potential new spouse because I was looking in the wrong direction?" My heart ached for the more God was talking about. New decisions had to be made. I had to make choices that were in my real life not just in reading my Bible or a prayer. 

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Each season asked something different of me, a path I had only heard about, then..wham it’s here. I couldn’t go into the next season leaning on my upbringing, or my understanding, or my friends insight and yes sometimes church leadership. That was their path and, many times, they weren’t praying about their suggestions for my life. In retrospect they were actually shooting from the hip. Giving advice quickly without praying. This was MY life. 

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One of the major turning points came when I accepted the fact there werent any shortcuts. There was a going through. I went to counseling for 3 years, recognizing and learning from trauma I had been through. Healing is a process not an event. With every transition I had  to make the conscious choice of not leaning on my own understanding. I would stop relying on my own strength and start taking God at His Word—fully. Not selectively. Not spiritually only. But Biblically, practically, and relationaly.

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As I leaned into faith, deep personal work, and professional training, I began to understand something that transformed my life—and now shapes my coaching:

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People don’t struggle because they’re broken. Especially for Christians. They struggle because they’re trying to live disconnected from who God created them to be.

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When I discovered how inborn personality traits, attachment patterns, and biblical truth intersect, clarity replaced confusion. I stopped “throwing spaghetti against the wall” and crossing my fingers,  hoping I heard God right. This started connecting me intentionally—with God, myself, and others. This brought so much peace for myself and people who I was in a relationship with.

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Healing didn’t happen overnight. But it happened deeply. My relationships grew healthier. My boundaries became clearer. My faith became lived, not just believed. And my calling became unmistakable. I want others to experience what I have, more peace, joy and confidence in the direction that I am going. 

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Today, I coach because I know what it feels like to stand at a crossroads—wanting more, believing God has more, but unsure how to move forward.

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     -I work with men and women individually and blended relationships who are ready to stop guessing  and start building—relationships, faith, and futures—on a solid foundation of intentional design.

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   -This isn’t about quick answers or blanket advice and yes prayer is involved. It’s about transformation that honors your story, your wiring, and God’s design for your life.

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If you’re here, chances are you’re sensing that something new is possible.

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You weren't created to walk alone, that's why its so uncomfortable. 

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I’m here to walk with you—faithfully, prayerfully, intentionally, and with hope.

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